Your Man, My Man...The Community Man is a powerful, emotionally intelligent expose on the modern-day archetype of the "community man," a charismatic, emotionally strategic man who sustains himself by rotating through relationships without ever offering real intimacy or commitment. While he appears generous, attentive, and emotionally evolved, his actual pattern is one of transference: not of love, but of needs from one woman to the next, without accountability or depth.
Through deeply personal storytelling, social insight, and psychological deconstruction, T.C. Jeffries unmasks the man many women have encountered but lacked the language to define. The community man is not the apparent cheater or abuser; he is something more nuanced, more dangerous. His tools are emotional intelligence, spiritual appearance, and manipulative consistency. His relationships don't end; they rotate.
The book centers on the experiences of three core female archetypes often targeted by the community man: the Relational Woman (who finds identity in connection), the Emotional Woman (who feels deeply and authentically), and the Loyal Woman (whose commitment often outlasts the relationship itself). These are women of power, substance, and heart, yet their very strengths become vulnerabilities in the hands of a man skilled in emotional camouflage.
With stories from real women, some who knew, some who didn't, and some who learned the hard way, the manuscript paints a vivid portrait of heartbreak, self-betrayal, awakening, and healing. It also includes a rare glimpse into the mind of the community man himself, offering readers insight into how generational trauma, ego, and learned behavior shape his identity.
Your Man, My Man...The Community Man is not just a cautionary tale; it's a reclamation. A guide for women who have been emotionally compromised, manipulated, or confused by a man who knew how to mirror them but never truly saw them. It is a manual for setting boundaries, emotional recovery, and choosing wholeness over fragmentation.
Ultimately, this book affirms what many women are still learning:
You are not too much. You are not replaceable. You were never meant to be one of many.
You were meant to be loved completely.
And your healing begins with knowing the truth and choosing yourself.