Following our desires, sharing pleasure: sounds easy, right? And yet our sexualities are conditioned by expectations, prejudices and taboos that make it difficult to listen to our own bodies, let alone anyone else’s.  Bel Olid clears away the taboos and invites readers to explore pathways to more connected sexualities and more pleasurable relationships. Because perhaps the first thing we need to learn about sex is to unlearn. Unlearn the desire we’ve been taught we must feel, unlearn the shame. Forget the bodies that we’ve been obliged to like, forget the behaviour presented as the only type possible. And then, with fresh eyes, look deep inside and ask ourselves what we want, what we like, what we feel like discovering. Listening to our desire, and listening to the other person too.  Daring ourselves to doubt, explore, make mistakes, stop at any time. Let’s step into the ocean of possibilities.