A much-needed guide to understanding gender, becoming a better trans ally, and making the world a better place

Gender is a human experience, not just a trans experience. Every single one of us has a relationship to gender, so how can we change the way we talk about it, challenge misconceptions, and become better allies?

Schuyler Bailar is the first transgender athlete to compete on the Harvard University Swim team. His difficult choice - to transition while potentially giving up the prospect of being a national champion - was historic. HE/SHE/THEY will provide readers with essential trans and gender literacy through empowering and informative stories from his own experiences, and those of other trans and non-binary individuals around the world. This urgent, hopeful guide will cover everything from understanding what gender is and how to talk about it, to gender in the world and how to be a better ally.

HE/SHE/THEY will provide readers - no matter age or gender - with the language, education, and tools needed to help make the world a better, kinder, and safer place for all trans and gender diverse people. 2020 and 2021 saw record-breaking instances of anti-trans legislation worldwide - and the highest rates of anti-trans violence on record. HE/SHE/THEY will inspire much-needed positive change and encourage and enable personal reflection and exploration so that every human can be the most compassionate, most authentic version of themselves - and importantly, become better trans allies in the process.