In 2014 I moved back to the United States after living abroad for fourteen years, my whole adult life, because my father was dying. Six weeks after I arrived in New York City, my father died. Six months after that I learned that I too was a carrier of the gene that caused the cancer that had killed him. When Jean Hannah Edelstein's world overturned she was forced to confront some of the big questions: how do we cope with grief? How does life change when we realise we're not invincible? Does knowing our likely fate make it harder or easier to face the future? This Really Isn't About You is a book about finding your way in life. Which is to say, it's a book about discovering you are not really in charge of that at all.